Dorothy and Alexandra’s love gets mysteriously hijacked
- Aug, 02 2013
- By Andrea M. Winn
- Dorothy and Alexandra Saga, Love, Uncategorized
- 3 comments
The two lovers reached the other side – the place where things would be safer, clearer, and they’d finally be able to build an ordinary relationship outside of the messiness of the love triangle with Victoria. Dorothy’s final words of the “hibernation” before her move echoed in Alexandra’s mind, “Come Monday, I will be all yours!”
Things were different after the move. Dorothy created a beautiful home. And she was able to spend much more time with Alexandra. The two lovers were able to be in touch whenever they wanted without the weight of Victoria’s watchful eye. Dorothy enjoyed being able to do nice things for Alexandra and to finally start to build the kind of relationship she wanted with the woman of her dreams.
But something was not working… As each week passed, the lovers grew more and more distant. It became harder and harder to discuss things. And the problems started accumulating as they didn’t get worked out. A great weight started to grow.
This bewildered the young lovers – how could this be happening after all they had done? Now there was finally the space for them to build the relationship they had dreamed of. How could this be happening???
After the third week, Alexandra was at the breaking point. As much as she loved Dorothy and wanted a relationship with her, Dorothy was no longer herself. She could see the dynamic passionate woman before her, but she couldn’t feel her heart beat. Dorothy was gone! Although Dorothy was the most organized woman she knew, this week Dorothy forgot they were scheduled to spend Saturday night together, and she made plans to go out with her friends instead. Alexandra was dumbfounded, because this was supposed to have been their last night together before Alexandra was going out of town for 5 days to visit friends in Eastern Ontario.
Alexandra was concerned! She sat Dorothy down and said they needed to create a sense of home for their relationship – that things were too chaotic! Dorothy said okay, But… BUT she was so angry with Alexandra because she’s too sensitive and doesn’t appreciate all that Dorothy has done, and why can’t she just allow the relationship to happen (and around 20 other complaints!).
Alexandra stormed out of the room. She refused to take all this dumping of emotion on her. It was if Dorothy didn’t even hear the need to create safety and a sense of a place for their relationship. Dorothy was in all out battle mode!
Alexandra was losing hope as she felt Dorothy slipping away into the darkness of her deep emotions of anger and hurt. And it was maddening! Because Dorothy was physically more present, but now it truly seemed her spirit had left.
Alexandra felt her commitment to this relationship disappear this week. The weight of the late night hashing and gnashing nearly every night was taking it’s toll, and for Alexandra it started to feel like leaving Dorothy was a better option. Especially since Dorothy was obviously so unhappy in the relationship, and certainly Alexandra was starting to be overwhelmed by all the fighting and never getting things worked out.
These two women love each other more deeply than you and I can imagine. Do you know why things aren’t working out between them? Share your thoughts below. We want to hear what you think is wrong and why everything has gone haywire after so much care and effort has gone into their being together.
Susan
They had not planned prior to moving in together, how to solve conflicts and live together in practical terms. They know how to relate on a romantic level but with the day-to-day minutiae of daily living people always have all kinds of differences. What does each woman need in order to feel taken care of, and loved?
Rhonda
Ahh, intimacy issues abound! The women crave the intimacy which they long for, but are actually terrified of it. Seems it’s time to make a commitment to love and grow together, or take the easy way out – jump ship, and create the same pattern later with someone new and perhaps lose the love of their life in the process.
Mary
Susan and Rhonda, you’ve hit the nail on the head! Our ladies are scared. . . . and, if their relationship is to survive, they have to make the transition from romantic love (hopefully always keeping the romantic spark) to a deeper, more realistic love. They must start talking! I encourage them to each separately review their ideal partner traits, so they can see what they’d be losing if they jump ship. I also suggest they take THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES quiz available on line together, so they gain understanding on each likes to have non-sexual love expressed to them in daily life. Hang in there A & D!