If we want to live with more love, we need to look at the foundational importance of self-care – caring for ourselves – so that our cup is full and overflowing.
I think we have all had the experience of running on an empty emotional tank. And like heroes we over-extend ourselves to take care of others.
It is utterly draining! It can cause serious physical disease, depression and anxiety. And, unfortunately, this is all too common an experience in today’s society.
Let’s understand the nature of the beast and what we can do to fill our cup with joy and love.
Historical role of women
It is worth looking at the socialization we inherited as women. Sensitive, caring men will also relate with this experience.
Women have been socialized to care for others, putting the needs of others first. We were told we are “bad” or “wrong” to take care of ourselves – it’s “selfish”!
We internalize these negative messages and live them out in our daily decisions. In this way we create a life structured around denying our needs.
This leads to situations of running on empty – our tank is empty, and yet we keep giving to others. It saps our life force.
What is the cost of sacrificing your self-care?
It can be a healthy step to acknowledge the cost of ignoring your needs. If you feel motivated to engage your own process of healing here today, there is a space below where you can share your answers to these questions.
What is the cost of sacrificing your self-care…
To your health?
To your relationships?
To your work and your financial well-being?
Most tragically, living life from a depleted state sabotages our ability to fulfill our life purpose. We literally don’t have the energy or mind space to attend to what is truly important.
No wonder people get sick and depressed!
Contrast – Empty vs Full
It literally feels good to take care of yourself. You feel worthwhile – worthy of care. You feel attended to, rather than giving up and letting the things that are important to you slide off your own plate.
When you take care of your well-being, then you have a rich reservoir from which to give to others. When you live with a full tank, you are empowered to know your personal truth – your life mission – and to live life with vibrant, healthy gusto!
Begin living with a full tank
Today’s post is about empowering you with awareness to help shift into more authentic care for yourself. I want to inspire you to organize your life in slightly different ways – ways that attend and nurture your well-being.
Try shifting just one thing in the next week. What is one small thing you can do to care for yourself over the next week? This is a powerful way to shift the scale to weigh in on the side of Love and Joy.
Please join me in this important discussion by sharing your thoughts and experience with self-care below. What are the costs for neglecting your self-care? What small thing are you going to try in the next week to shift the balance towards self-care?
And watch for my email next week with an exercise for your Heart Chakra to fill your cup with loving joy!